My Definition Of Love

” This is not a love story, but it is a story about love.” 


So, let’s talk about love.

Love is love.

I love love.

I think love is a beautiful thing.

I believe love is the most powerful force on Earth and I wholeheartedly believe it exists.

Have I ever been in love?

Sure. That’s one of the reasons why I believe in it. Actually, to be perfectly honest, I was a true believer even before I ever experienced it for myself. I’m what most people would call – a hopeless romantic.


I think with my heart and put love above everything. I’ve made life-changing decisions and done all sorts of crazy things in the name of love.


Because I LOVE love! I love being in love and when I fall madly in love with someone, it’s the beginning and the end for me. It’s the beginning of a beautiful, thrilling adventure and the end of my rationality. You can ask any of my closest friends – once I’m sprung, there is truly no space left in my brain for logical thoughts.

Now, you might think I’m crazy. And that’s okay! I know that my outlook on love may be a little extreme for some. I just can’t help it.

I am THAT BITCH who’s seen the movie Titanic at least four hundred times and would still be in the mood to watch it again. I am THAT BITCH who gets excited when complete strangers announce their engagements on social media or (even better) publicly propose! I love it all. I’m here for it. Fuck, I even get butterflies in my stomach and give a mental round of applause when I see a man buy a bouquet of roses for his partner/girlfriend/boyfriend/whatever at the flower shop!

Ok, I think you guys get the point. I’m clearly a huge fan of all things love, romance, tenderness, intimacy, and basically anything that gives you the #feels.


Now that we have established my borderline obsession with love – let me explain how I, Perla Chase, define that special four-letter word.

From my point of view, love means complete and unconditional acceptance.

When I find myself falling in love with someone, I love them entirely. I fall in love with them at their best and their worst. I love them regardless of their flaws or the things they’re ashamed of. I love them when they’re excited and when they’re scared, and I especially love when they’re happy.

To be perfectly blunt, sometimes I genuinely worry that I will never find someone who loves me in the same way that I will love them. I’ve been in many relationships, as well as friendships and social situations, where I’ve accepted people without judgement or hesitation but sadly didn’t receive the same acceptance or “love” in return.

I feel like love is the ultimate juxtaposition. Love can be as simple as the sky is blue, or it can be complicated af. I wouldn’t consider myself to be a religious person by any stretch of the imagination, but I often find myself praying for that one simple, loving person to walk into my life.

Yes, I do want to get married one day. Finding my soulmate and colliding our lives together is something I want to accomplish someday. On that same note: Yes, I do believe in soulmates! I believe soulmates exist in every aspect of your life, not just in the romantic sense. I’m pretty positive I’ve found a few soulmates in my dearest of friendships. There are currently people in my life that I undoubtedly believe are supposed to be in it and know our souls were meant to meet.

Oh yeah, I’m also that fucking hopeless romantic loser that believes my soulmate is out there right now, actively looking for me as we speak. I don’t know when or where or how they’ll find me – but I’m pretty damn excited to see how that story will play out.



Ok friends and fam! i think this post is sufficiently sappy enough. I hope you enjoyed reading my honest thoughts on love and being a self-proclaimed hopeless romantic. I’m just going to put it out there now since I KNOW I will receive questions about it: Yes, I am still single as I am writing this post. I’ve been single for almost two years but (after much internal growth and encouragement from my therapist) have made it a goal to take my dating and love life more seriously this year. Let’s see how that works out! I’ll keep you posted.

Till next time 🙂


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